Are your kids perfect?

     Have you ever met one of those parent's who think that their child can do no wrong? And, usually others see that child as unruly? I have. And, I just don't get it. I think you can love your kids without having to pretend they are perfect when they are not. My kids mean the world to me, but I know that they are a little unruly at times. It makes me wonder-do these parents really think their child is without faults or do they think if they pretend, others will believe it?

     Usually these kids are only children and they are doted on mercilessly by their parents leading them to think that they are entitled to whatever they want. The problem with this is that they don't learn to do things like share. They are selfish and pitch fits when they don't get their way. Some even pick fights with other kids because they know they don't get in trouble for it, anyway.

     Unfortunately, the parents of these children don't realize that in denying the fact that their children aren't perfect, they are psychologically damaging them. They are also setting them up for failure in the real world because life often doesn't go your way. And, you can't throw a temper tantrum when it doesn't. You have to have coping skills, and most of these children grow up without them.

     So what do you do when you come across parents who think their kids are perfect, when in fact no one is? Do you call their attention to their child's faults? Do you not let your children play with them because you know they're just a temper tantrum waiting to happen? What if you do say something to try to bring it to the parent's attention? Will it help if they truly didn't see it? Or will they resent you for noticing? 

     I think that people need to pay more attention to their kids and their personalities. Notice what kinds of things they do when playing with others. Are they selfish or do they start fights? Are you letting them get by with more than they should? Do you look at other people's children and think they're the problem? Maybe they partially are. But, if your child deals with the same issues with different kids, maybe your child is the issue. Maybe it's time to pull your head out of the sand and realize that while children are a gift from God, they are not perfect, and it's okay to admit it. I swear, when I meet parents like these, it sometimes makes me want to smack some sense into them. But, that's a different topic for a different time. If you have dealt with this, or think I'm wrong, or want to share an experience, feel free to leave a comment. Thanks. :)