My soon-to-be ex-husband and I have a protection order in place. It makes life safer on all fronts, but it specifically states which things are allowed and which things aren't. For instance, he is allowed to call his children once a day, but he isn't allowed to speak to me. He's also supposed to pay child support and come pick them up for visitation at his aunt's house every other weekend. What a joke!
First of all, as far as calling goes, he sometimes calls every day, but sometimes it's once every three or four days. On the days he does call, it's every few hours all day long. And, for some reason, he completely missed the part about not talking to me. He constantly asks to talk to me or tries to talk to me. And, then he asks me a million questions. Not about what his kids are doing, but all about my life, which is none of his business. When he does remember it's them he's supposed to be talking to, he asks for them, but the only one who will still talk to him is Ruthie. The boys are tired of the crap, already.
Child support is a joke. I have even contacted Child Support Enforcement, and he still hasn't paid the first penny. He keeps calling telling me he just doesn't have it, but that he's trying. He even claims he went to places like McDonald's and The Waffle House and that they took one look at him and said no. I find that hard to believe... But, at the same time, he also calls to tell me that he's drunk or that he's high, and how much money he spent to get that way. He also tells me about the girls he's spending money on. And, I don't get it. If he has the money for those things, he has the money for child support. But, still he doesn't pay it, even though he's going to go to jail if not.
And, then there's visitation. He never comes to get them. He did the first weekend he was supposed to, and hasn't been back since. The kids started out being disappointed when they didn't get to see him, but now they don't seem to care. And, I figure that's why they don't talk to him when he calls. Does he really think he can never see them and only talk to them a couple of times a week and that eventually they won't care anymore? I mean really?
All of this seems crazy to me, and I just don't get it. If anyone has any insight into how this works or how to deal with it, please feel free to comment. Thanks.
First of all, as far as calling goes, he sometimes calls every day, but sometimes it's once every three or four days. On the days he does call, it's every few hours all day long. And, for some reason, he completely missed the part about not talking to me. He constantly asks to talk to me or tries to talk to me. And, then he asks me a million questions. Not about what his kids are doing, but all about my life, which is none of his business. When he does remember it's them he's supposed to be talking to, he asks for them, but the only one who will still talk to him is Ruthie. The boys are tired of the crap, already.
Child support is a joke. I have even contacted Child Support Enforcement, and he still hasn't paid the first penny. He keeps calling telling me he just doesn't have it, but that he's trying. He even claims he went to places like McDonald's and The Waffle House and that they took one look at him and said no. I find that hard to believe... But, at the same time, he also calls to tell me that he's drunk or that he's high, and how much money he spent to get that way. He also tells me about the girls he's spending money on. And, I don't get it. If he has the money for those things, he has the money for child support. But, still he doesn't pay it, even though he's going to go to jail if not.
And, then there's visitation. He never comes to get them. He did the first weekend he was supposed to, and hasn't been back since. The kids started out being disappointed when they didn't get to see him, but now they don't seem to care. And, I figure that's why they don't talk to him when he calls. Does he really think he can never see them and only talk to them a couple of times a week and that eventually they won't care anymore? I mean really?
All of this seems crazy to me, and I just don't get it. If anyone has any insight into how this works or how to deal with it, please feel free to comment. Thanks.
