The actual dictionary definition of being promiscuous is: Having casual sexual relations frequently with different partners; indiscriminate in the choice of sexual partners. This definitely fits me. I don't see anything wrong with it when you're single. Granted, some people are remain this way while they are supposed to be in a committed relationship, and then wonder why they ended up single again... But, even though I see no problem with it, some people do.
I know that promiscuity leads to a high number of sexual partners, and that there is the risk of catching an STD or getting pregnant. My advice to people is to remember what your mama should have taught you, and use a condom. I can honestly say though, that when you are in the middle of wrapping up with someone, usually you aren't thinking about any of these things. You're usually thinking it feels good and you aren't wanting to stop long enough to worry about being careful. One thing that also leads to so many people "forgetting" is the mindset that it won't happen to you.
But, what if it does? I personally only remember the condom thing about half the time... Usually, I'm too caught up in what I'm doing to care. Plus, I'm allergic. My tubes are tied, so I generally don't worry about pregnancy, although, I have gotten pregnant since my tubal, so it's not a definite thing... But, I, luckily, haven't ever gotten an STD. I get tested every three months-just to be safe. And, even with the condom issues, I always remember with people I've just met. It's the long-time friends or people I've known awhile that I tend to forget with. But, life happens.
I have a friend, who would kill me if I told her name, who used to be just as out there as me, but decided to clean up her act. She settled down, and has been with the same man for the last few years. Recently, though, they had some issues, and she spent one weekend randomly hooking up with people, and now she thinks she has an STD. Because she got caught up, she now has to worry about it and explain it to her fiance.
Does that mean I think she shouldn't have went out and randomly slept with someone? No. Do I think she should have been more careful? Probably, but I have no room to say anything. Do I think that being promiscuous makes me an awful person? No. I think that sex was created to bring pleasure, so why not enjoy it?
And, as far as the ever-increasing numbers go, who cares? If you've been with five people or five thousand people, it's your business. If people look at you and judge you based on that alone, they didn't really want to know you anyway. I, personally, firmly believe that all it does is give you experience. And, they say practice makes perfect, so doesn't it stand to reason that the more "experience" you've had, the better it's going to be?
One definite good thing about having multiple partners is that you learn new things about yourself. You learn what kinds of things you like and what you don't. You also learn what you're willing to do for your partner and what you're not. And, it usually gives you more confidence in yourself because you know if the same people keep coming back, they must have liked it.
The one thing that so many people get hung up on is thinking you need to be in a relationship to have sex or that sex and love go hand-in-hand. I don't think so. I think that relationships are troublesome at times. And, if you just got out of one, you aren't looking for a new one. But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't get laid. And, I'm sorry, but what the hell does love have to do with sex? I don't have to have sex with you just because I love you. Or I would have slept with all my homies. And, no, I actually haven't. Some, but not all. And, I don't have to love you just to have sex with you. If so, that would take the fun out of spontaneous hook-ups.
Anyways, so I don't think there is anything wrong with promiscuity, but if it's not for you, okay. Don't judge me because it's how I am. To each his own. I don't judge others based on their numbers or whether they choose to be in a relationship or not. Or by whether they choose to remain faithful in those relationships or not. It's none of my business who you choose to give it up to or how often. Nor is it any of anyone else's business what my choices are. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm not. What do you think? Feel free to leave any thoughts or comments in the comments section. Thanks. :)
I know that promiscuity leads to a high number of sexual partners, and that there is the risk of catching an STD or getting pregnant. My advice to people is to remember what your mama should have taught you, and use a condom. I can honestly say though, that when you are in the middle of wrapping up with someone, usually you aren't thinking about any of these things. You're usually thinking it feels good and you aren't wanting to stop long enough to worry about being careful. One thing that also leads to so many people "forgetting" is the mindset that it won't happen to you.
But, what if it does? I personally only remember the condom thing about half the time... Usually, I'm too caught up in what I'm doing to care. Plus, I'm allergic. My tubes are tied, so I generally don't worry about pregnancy, although, I have gotten pregnant since my tubal, so it's not a definite thing... But, I, luckily, haven't ever gotten an STD. I get tested every three months-just to be safe. And, even with the condom issues, I always remember with people I've just met. It's the long-time friends or people I've known awhile that I tend to forget with. But, life happens.
I have a friend, who would kill me if I told her name, who used to be just as out there as me, but decided to clean up her act. She settled down, and has been with the same man for the last few years. Recently, though, they had some issues, and she spent one weekend randomly hooking up with people, and now she thinks she has an STD. Because she got caught up, she now has to worry about it and explain it to her fiance.
Does that mean I think she shouldn't have went out and randomly slept with someone? No. Do I think she should have been more careful? Probably, but I have no room to say anything. Do I think that being promiscuous makes me an awful person? No. I think that sex was created to bring pleasure, so why not enjoy it?
And, as far as the ever-increasing numbers go, who cares? If you've been with five people or five thousand people, it's your business. If people look at you and judge you based on that alone, they didn't really want to know you anyway. I, personally, firmly believe that all it does is give you experience. And, they say practice makes perfect, so doesn't it stand to reason that the more "experience" you've had, the better it's going to be?
One definite good thing about having multiple partners is that you learn new things about yourself. You learn what kinds of things you like and what you don't. You also learn what you're willing to do for your partner and what you're not. And, it usually gives you more confidence in yourself because you know if the same people keep coming back, they must have liked it.
The one thing that so many people get hung up on is thinking you need to be in a relationship to have sex or that sex and love go hand-in-hand. I don't think so. I think that relationships are troublesome at times. And, if you just got out of one, you aren't looking for a new one. But, that doesn't mean you shouldn't get laid. And, I'm sorry, but what the hell does love have to do with sex? I don't have to have sex with you just because I love you. Or I would have slept with all my homies. And, no, I actually haven't. Some, but not all. And, I don't have to love you just to have sex with you. If so, that would take the fun out of spontaneous hook-ups.
Anyways, so I don't think there is anything wrong with promiscuity, but if it's not for you, okay. Don't judge me because it's how I am. To each his own. I don't judge others based on their numbers or whether they choose to be in a relationship or not. Or by whether they choose to remain faithful in those relationships or not. It's none of my business who you choose to give it up to or how often. Nor is it any of anyone else's business what my choices are. Maybe I'm wrong. Maybe I'm not. What do you think? Feel free to leave any thoughts or comments in the comments section. Thanks. :)
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