Has anybody ever noticed that you get way more feedback about the negative things you do than about the positive things? Why is this? Why is it easier to say, "You messed up by doing this, that, and the other," than to simply say, "Good job!"? I don't understand it. Maybe people think that if they criticize everything you do, it'll change you. Maybe it does change people. But, I'm not made like that....
I have a very rebellious personality. If someone says something I do is bad, I usually take it a step further to see if they think that's worse. Admittedly, this sometimes gets me in trouble, but I feel like I somehow proved a point. If you want to think I'm bad, then I'll show you how bad I can be. So... if you think criticizing me or bitching at me will change me, it won't. On the other hand, when people give positive feedback, I react the same way. If you think I'm good now, let me show you how good it can get. But, being the person I am, I rarely get this.
I most of the time am so busy just doing what I want to do right then, that I catch the criticism. I believe that life is short and you should enjoy it as much as you can while you can. A friend said something to me once that made alot of sense. Where he got it from I don't know. But he said, "I would hate to tiptoe quietly through life only to end up safely at death." I believe that you only get one shot, so why not live it up every chance you get?
I also believe that you should always be yourself and do what feels right for you, regardless of what other people think. And, no I don't mean if you feel like killing someone, or beating your spouse, or something similar, go for it. I do mean, though, that if you want to have friends that mean something to you, even if other people disapprove, then have those friends. If you want to pick up and move to the other side of the world, and can afford it, go for it. If you want to date someone of a different race or the same sex, then that's your business. Whether you are a devout Christian, absolutely atheist, or somewhere in the middle, that's for you to decide and deal with if the time ever comes.
What gives other people the right to decide these things for me or for you? How does anyone other than yourself know what feels right to you? Or what makes sense for you in your life at the moment? The person who tells you that you are going to hell if you don't follow certain rules of their religion, aren't they breaking one themselves? Is the person who tells you that you shouldn't move somewhere new, going to give you a place to live and pay your bills to keep you where they want you? Would you be as happy if they did?
I think people should always do what they feel is best for them. And, I believe that people should give their fellow humans positive encouragement instead of negative criticism more often. If someone wants to date someone of a different race or the same sex, why not say, "Wow. I hope that you're happy in that decision and that things work out for you," instead of, "Why the hell would you want to do that? Don't you know that you'll be judged? I don't think it's appropriate."? Isn't the first one nicer? Or if someone is moving somewhere and they're excited, congratulate them.
Even if you don't understand some one's motivation for things, you don't have to. They do. And, you should be positive instead of negative as much as possible.It'll make you feel better, and the people around you will, too. People say that children react better to positive reinforcement, but they seem to forget that adults do, as well. Think about it. Which do you prefer? What do you think about my opinion? Do you agree or disagree? Feel free to comment. Thanks. :)
I have a very rebellious personality. If someone says something I do is bad, I usually take it a step further to see if they think that's worse. Admittedly, this sometimes gets me in trouble, but I feel like I somehow proved a point. If you want to think I'm bad, then I'll show you how bad I can be. So... if you think criticizing me or bitching at me will change me, it won't. On the other hand, when people give positive feedback, I react the same way. If you think I'm good now, let me show you how good it can get. But, being the person I am, I rarely get this.
I most of the time am so busy just doing what I want to do right then, that I catch the criticism. I believe that life is short and you should enjoy it as much as you can while you can. A friend said something to me once that made alot of sense. Where he got it from I don't know. But he said, "I would hate to tiptoe quietly through life only to end up safely at death." I believe that you only get one shot, so why not live it up every chance you get?
I also believe that you should always be yourself and do what feels right for you, regardless of what other people think. And, no I don't mean if you feel like killing someone, or beating your spouse, or something similar, go for it. I do mean, though, that if you want to have friends that mean something to you, even if other people disapprove, then have those friends. If you want to pick up and move to the other side of the world, and can afford it, go for it. If you want to date someone of a different race or the same sex, then that's your business. Whether you are a devout Christian, absolutely atheist, or somewhere in the middle, that's for you to decide and deal with if the time ever comes.
What gives other people the right to decide these things for me or for you? How does anyone other than yourself know what feels right to you? Or what makes sense for you in your life at the moment? The person who tells you that you are going to hell if you don't follow certain rules of their religion, aren't they breaking one themselves? Is the person who tells you that you shouldn't move somewhere new, going to give you a place to live and pay your bills to keep you where they want you? Would you be as happy if they did?
I think people should always do what they feel is best for them. And, I believe that people should give their fellow humans positive encouragement instead of negative criticism more often. If someone wants to date someone of a different race or the same sex, why not say, "Wow. I hope that you're happy in that decision and that things work out for you," instead of, "Why the hell would you want to do that? Don't you know that you'll be judged? I don't think it's appropriate."? Isn't the first one nicer? Or if someone is moving somewhere and they're excited, congratulate them.
Even if you don't understand some one's motivation for things, you don't have to. They do. And, you should be positive instead of negative as much as possible.It'll make you feel better, and the people around you will, too. People say that children react better to positive reinforcement, but they seem to forget that adults do, as well. Think about it. Which do you prefer? What do you think about my opinion? Do you agree or disagree? Feel free to comment. Thanks. :)
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